"We surrender the person known only in the dreams of God to become a persona shaped by the whims of others...
The woman lost in vain conceit spends more time on the cosmetic and neglects the spirit" Erwin McManus pg 29 "Uprising"
This morning I was reading "Uprising" by Erwin McManus and came across the above statement and thought I would share my thoughts. I couldn't help but be convicted and know that many times I am this woman. The world has defined beauty as perfection. Perfection in physical appearance. You must not be too skinny, but you shouldn't be too fat either...perfection is best. In my mind, only skinny, pretty girls get married. Men are visual creatures and they see air brushed perfection crammed in their faces thousands of times of day from TV, Internet, ads, or highway signs whether they want it or not. Perfection is expected. The world expects physical perfection and physical perfection defines beauty.
Beauty has to be something so much deeper than this. Perfection is an illusion and misleading. Perfect girls don't really exist. But why is that the world demands it and I am constantly struggling to be defined by the worlds standard rather than Jesus' standard? Bulimia and anorexia is becoming common place and wanting to be sexy is being desired and sought after by young teens more than success, godliness, or education.
I would be lying if I said I never fall into this trap. In fact, many times
daily I have to remind myself that I am not defined by the world's standards. I think in some ways this semester, I have failed. Alicia is a "woman lost in vain conceit spending more time on the cosmetic and neglecting the spirit."
This past semester, I have lost 20 lbs. I have worked very hard and very diligently and been disciplined to lose weight. My focus and attention and goals have been focused towards losing so that I can be attractive by the world's standards. I mean, yes I did it to be healthy also, but if I was completely honest, I was
more motivated by wanting to be attractive by the world's standards. But I have spent more discipline, time, and energy this semester working on my physical appearance than working on my spiritual appearance. It has honestly been a pretty dry semester spiritually with lack of desire for His word.
I am not saying, that as females we should let ourselves go physically but rather our size or pounds on the scale can't
define us and give us our
value. My true value is understood in the presence of Jesus and living a FULL, RADICAL and SPENT life for Him. If this comes first, then putting energy and time into losing 20lbs is healthy and encouraged. Then I am doing it out of my love for Jesus and my desire to take care of the body He has given me. However, I am still easily enticed by the world's standards. Daily, I must remind myself that beauty is so much deeper than big boobs, small waistlines, and cute clothes. I think this is something that I will struggle with my whole life, but I am thankful that Jesus sees my beauty and defines my value. I also have to remind myself that one day, the man God has for me, will also see my beauty and my value...even if I do have a little extra junk in my trunk!!
Being a female is rough these days... wouldn't you agree? My prayer is that I would be the woman that God dreams for me to be and that I would seek his approval more than I seek to waste my life being attractive by the worlds standards. How many people around you have you seen that struggle with the latter? Let us be true woman that are seeking the heart of God and then we achieve beauty that never fades and that won't one day need plastic surgery!
How many of you out there would say that you struggle with being defined by the world's standard? Let's work hard to redefine beauty among the women in our own community by living full, radical, spent lives for Jesus and His purposes rather than using our lives to please the world!